Should We Homeschool?

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A quiet decision-making checklist for neurodivergent families who need space to think.

This free checklist is designed to help you pause, reflect, and gently explore whether homeschooling might be a better fit for your child and family – without pressure to decide, commit, or act straight away. It supports clear thinking during an emotionally loaded time, helping you notice patterns, needs, and capacity before making any changes.

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A quiet tool for an emotionally loaded season

When school is hard, decisions don’t happen in a calm, logical space.

They happen while you’re:

  • juggling school refusal or school-can’t
  • managing anxiety, shutdowns, or big emotional crashes
  • trying to work out what’s “normal” and what’s a sign things aren’t sustainable
  • carrying the fear of “getting it wrong”

This checklist gives you a steadier place to stand.

What you’ll get

A printable checklist that guides you through:

  • what school is currently costing your child (and your family)
  • what helps your child feel safe enough to learn
  • your family’s capacity right now (without shame)
  • gentle reframes that reduce the “all-or-nothing” pressure
  • calm next steps you can take without committing to homeschooling

You can do it in ten minutes, or come back to it slowly over a week.

Helpful if you’re

  • questioning whether school is working, but unsure what comes next
  • feeling overwhelmed by school pressure and big decisions
  • considering homeschooling but not ready to commit
  • needing reassurance that you’re allowed to pause and think
  • parenting an autistic, ADHD, anxious, or demand-avoidant child

What this isn’t

Just to make this feel safe:

This is not a “pull them out of school” plan.
It’s not a step-by-step guide to homeschooling.
It’s not a test you pass or fail.

It’s a calm decision-support tool for families under pressure.

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Instant download. No urgency. Take what helps, leave the rest.

Read next (if you need the pressure-off version)

If your child is already too overwhelmed and you’re in the “we need to slow everything down” stage, you might also like:

Deschooling Essentials (free mini guide)
A gentle introduction to reducing pressure and supporting recovery.

About Sophie

I’m Sophie – a mum of two neurodivergent boys, and a late-diagnosed ADHD woman.

Our family has navigated school refusal, anxiety, burnout, and the quiet grief of realising the system doesn’t work for your child. We now homeschool, and I support other parents with lived experience, practical tools, and a nervous-system-first approach – not rigid rules or one-size-fits-all solutions.

Let’s connect


If you’d like a calm, supportive space to think things through, you’re welcome to join my free Facebook group.
You don’t need to be homeschooling. You don’t need to have decided anything. You’re welcome just as you are. 

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